Main description:

Although divorce is common, it often holds negative associations. Husband and wife team Barry and Emily McCarthy view divorce and remarriage with optimism, showing it to be a courageous choice that should not be viewed as personal failure but rather as a positive step towards a better life. In Getting it Right This Time, they zoom in on remarriage issues and identify the factors that led to the end of a marriage, using that information to help you learn from past mistakes and start over. Marriage is based on a respectful, trusting relationship, and the McCarthys affirm that remarriage is an important choice that can lead to a rich, rewarding, and loving second chance. Getting it Right This Time provides resources needed to assess and change attitudes, behavior, and feelings to help you build a new marriage and step-family that will bring out the best in you as individuals and as a couple.

Contents:

What Happened to 'Happy Ever After?' The Courage to Divorce. Learning From the Past. Choosing Well. Money and Second Marriage. Intimacy and Sexuality. Stepfamilies and Stepparenting - Yours, Mine, and Ours. Should We Have a Child? Traps and Vulnerabilities. Understandings and Agreements. Dealing with the Ex-spouse. The Imperfect Marriage: Surviving Hard Times. Marriage After Fifty. Cost-benefit Assessment of Difficult Marriages. Pride and Acceptance. Appendix A: Choosing an Individual, Couple, or Family Therapist. Appendix B: Marriage and Stepfamily Support Groups and Enhancement Programs. Appendix C: Recommended Books.