From leading marital therapists and researchers, this unique book presents a three-stage therapy approach for clinicians working with couples struggling in the aftermath of infidelity. The book provides empirically grounded strategies for helping clients overcome the initial shock, understand what happened and why, think clearly about their best interests before they act, and move on emotionally, whether or not they ultimately reconcile. The volume is loaded with vivid clinical examples and carefully designed exercises for use both during sessions and at home. The book will be invaluable to clinicians who treat couples, including couple and family therapists and counselors, clinical psychologists, social workers, pastoral counselors, and psychiatrists. It may also serve as a supplemental text in graduate-level courses.
Part I: Preparing for Treatment. Conceptualizing an Integrative Treatment for Affair Couples. Initial Assessment and Formulation. Creating a Therapeutic Environment. Part II: Stage 1 of Treatment. Damage Control. Restoring Equilibrium. Addressing Emotional Upheaval. Part III: Stage 2 of Treatment. Preparing the Couple to Examine Contributing Factors. Examining Relationship Factors. Examining Outside Factors. Examining Individual Partner Factors. Complex Affairs. Tying it All Together: Creating a Formulation of How the Affair Occurred. Part IV: Stage 3 of Treatment. Addressing Issues of Forgiveness and Barriers to Moving Forward. Moving Forward. Concluding Comments.