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Loss and grief are universal human experiences that cause profound suffering. Unfortunately, most people are unaware of current research on bereavement and ways to promote healthy coping. The Group: Seven Widowed Fathers and Adaptation to Tragic Loss tackles this problem head-on. By chronicling the challenges and triumphs of a remarkable group of men who were left to raise young children after their wives died, this book offers a novel perspective and inspiration
to anyone facing life's inevitable hardships.

The Group is inspired by an innovative program at the University of North Carolina (UNC) at Chapel Hill. As directors of the Single Fathers Due to Cancer Program, the authors lead support groups for recently widowed fathers facing the simultaneous challenges of mourning their wives' deaths and raising their grieving children. The experiences of the seven men from the original support group - Karl, Neill, Bruce, Joe, Dan, Steven, and Russell - provide the raw material for this book. These
men met monthly for four years and forged a tight bond. They encouraged each other through painful setbacks and celebrated increasingly frequent successes as sole parents. They also "gave backto other fathers by helping to launch a research program on widowed parenthood and end-of-life supportive
care for young parents. Their individual stories and shared experiences reveal important insights about coping with any kind of loss.

As the support group matured, it became apparent that traditional approaches to bereavement were not helpful for these men. For example, the still widely accepted "five stages of grief" model, introduced by Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 bestseller On Death and Dying, failed to capture the unique circumstances of widowed fatherhood. The bereavement field has made major advances over the past few decades; however, these insights about both normal and pathological grief have yet to
penetrate the public's consciousness. This book integrates for the lay reader poignant narratives from the fathers in the support group with the latest advances in grief resolution, resilience, positive psychology, meaning-making, and post-traumatic growth.

The Group is also rich with contemporary theory and data that one would expect from an academically-oriented book on grief and adaptation. This is a story being told for the first time that has relevance to anyone who has suffered a meaningful loss.

The book will be particularly interesting to those who have recently experienced the loss of a loved one as well as professionals in the fields of grief counseling, mental health, hospice, palliative care, and oncology.


Drs. Rosenstein and Yopp created the Single Fathers Due to Cancer Program at UNC five years ago to address the almost completely overlooked needs of widowed fathers. Since establishing this program, it has expanded well beyond the initial support group to include educational services for oncologists and hospital staff, an online resource for widowed fathers (www.singlefathersduetocancer.org http://www.singlefathersduetocancer.org) and a research program dedicated to families affected by
advanced cancer. These efforts have led to the largest data set ever collected from widowed parents. The Single Fathers Due to Cancer Program has garnered national media attention (Jane Brody, New York Times; NBC's Today Show) and published in leading peer-reviewed academic journals. Drs. Rosenstein
and Yopp speak regularly at domestic and international professional conferences on end-of-life care and bereavement.

Contents:

"The Group: Seven Widowed Fathers Reimagine Life"
Table of Contents

Part I: Unimaginable Loss
Chapter 1: Neill's Dilemma
Chapter 2: The First Meeting
Chapter 3: Beyond Death and Dying
Chapter 4: Going It Alone
Chapter 5: The Wrong Parent Died
Chapter 6: "Of Course I'm Depressed, but Do I Have Depression?"
Chapter 7: Band of Brothers

Part II: Adaptation
Chapter 8: The Good Enough Father
Chapter 9: A Child's Grief
Chapter 10: The Ring Thing
Chapter 11: Last in Line
Chapter 12: Dating 2.0

Part III: Reimagined Lives
Chapter 13: Future Trajectories
Chapter 14: The Meaning of Life
Chapter 15: Posttraumatic Growth
Chapter 16: An Unexpected Partnership
Chapter 17: Hard-Earned Wisdom
Chapter 18: Winding Down

Epilogue

Acknowledgments

Bibliography

Index