"In keeping with person-centered theory and therapy, John and Rita Sommers-Flanagan have produced a book that will be immensely helpful for professionals who work with parents. Throughout the pages, there are many examples of practitioners honoring and respecting parents and listening deeply to how best be of help. I am delighted that this book continues to echo and expand on my father's work." -Natalie Rogers, PhD, REAT, author, The Creative Connection and The Creative Connections for Groups "Because parenting can be such a dizzying task, professionals working with parents need to have intelligible, compassionate, and ethical principles to guide their work. John and Rita Sommers-Flanagan have mastered this complex terrain, and we are fortunate, in this articulate and accessible book, to gain from their exceptional experience and wisdom."
-Andrew Peterson, EdD, author, The Next Ten Minutes: 51 Absurdly Simple Ways to Seize the Moment Step-by-step guidance for building healthy dialogues with parents that open communication and promote positive outcomes Embracing the uniqueness of every parent, family situation, and practitioner, How to Listen so Parents Will Talk and Talk so Parents Will Listen helps professionals address the parent-child problems that families often find puzzling or challenging and for which they seek support and guidance. How to Listen so Parents Will Talk and Talk so Parents Will Listen features many specific interventions and methods for helping parents implement developmentally appropriate and scientifically supported strategies for building healthy parent-child relationships and working through the most common conflicts encountered in families.
It includes:* Tips for creating a positive therapist-client experience with parents* Guidelines for working with a variety of parents* Parenting tip sheets and homework assignments* Case studies focusing on many different parenting problems, including the strong-willed child, divorce, homework battles, spanking, and more How to Listen so Parents Will Talk and Talk so Parents Will Listen will help you develop positive relationships with parents so that constructive two-way dialogue can be established. Even the most difficult and resistant parents can be successfully engaged through the helpful strategies, advice, and tools found in this practical guide.
Case Examples ix Preface xi PART ONE: UNDERSTANDING AND BEING WITH PARENTS CHAPTER ONE A Way of Being With Parents 3 CHAPTER TWO Preparing Yourself to Work Effectively With Parents 17 CHAPTER THREE What Parents Want: A Model for Understanding Adult Influence 33 PART TWO: STRATEGIES FOR WORKING WITH PARENTS CHAPTER FOUR From Initial Contact to Assessment: Building and Maintaining a Working Relationship With Parents 57 CHAPTER FIVE Collaborative Problem Formulation 75 CHAPTER SIX Creating and Providing Guidance, Advice, and Solutions 93 PART THREE: PRACTICAL TECHNIQUES FOR PARENTING CHALLENGES CHAPTER SEVEN Teaching Relationship-Based Interventions to Parents 113 CHAPTER EIGHT Sharing Power to Gain Influence: Indirect and Problem-Solving Interventions 133 CHAPTER NINE A New-and-Improved Behaviorism: Child-Friendly but Direct Approaches to Discipline 153 CHAPTER TEN Ongoing Contact, Complications, and Referrals 177 CHAPTER ELEVEN Dealing With Special Situations and Issues 195 Appendix A: An Annotated Bibliography of Parenting Books 209 Appendix B: Tip Sheets for Parents 217 Appendix C: Parent Satisfaction and Counselor Reflection Inventory 229 Appendix D: Master List of Attitudes, Strategies, and Interventions 233 Appendix E: Chapter Checklists 235 Appendix F: Parent Homework Assignments 241 References 261 Author Index 271 Subject Index 275