Winner of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) Self-Help Seal of Merit! In the aftermath of infidelity, couples often struggle with emotional turmoil and sometimes make decisions they later regret. Getting Past the Affair helps them overcome the initial shock, understand what happened and why, and think clearly about their best interests before they act. Based on the combined insight of leading marital therapists and researchers, this unique program encourages couples and individuals to take things one step at a time, whether they stay together or part ways. Research shows that roughly two-thirds of those who use the approach find it significantly beneficial, making it the only program to have been empirically tested - and proven - to help partners restore trust and rebuild their marriage after an affair. Even in cases where reconciliation is impossible, this compassionate, insightful book emphasizes ways for readers to recover personally and avoid emotional scars so they can pursue healthier relationships in the future.
Introduction. Part I: How Do We Stop Hurting? What's Happening to Us? How Do We Get Through the Day? How Do We Talk with Each Other? How Do We Deal with Others? How Do We Care for Ourselves? Part II: How Did This Happen? Why Stir Everything Up? Was My Marriage to Blame? Was it the World Around Us? How Could My Partner Have Done This? What Was My Role? How Do I Make Sense of it All? Part III: Can This Marriage be Saved? How Do I Get Past the Hurt? Can This Marriage be Saved? What Lies Ahead? Additional Resources.